Living in a society with various beliefs and values is as complex as it may seem, especially if you're an outsider and that your own values contradict with a number of people within the society. As a result, you can never have a sense of belonging to that particular society, until you compromise your own values and live to the majority.
I think it's a shame when that happens because one shouldn't be ethnocentric and judge others from their own set of values. We should accept others as they are since every one has his/her own beliefs which he/she was brought up with hence making him/her unique. Yet, certain people tolerate zero 'nonsense' and strictly believe that if you are in Rome, you are obliged to live like the Romans. Thus being unique within a society is a punishment to that particular individual.
Frankly, I am no Santos, so i do tend to be judgemental at times. But a reminder, keep the nasty judging thoughts to yourself. Don't spurt it out because you may never know how detrimental it can be. If not to the society, think how it shall affect the unique individual.
Therefore, this is when empathy, tolerance and openness come into place. Try to put yourself in the person's shoes. Imagine you're in a society whose values vary greatly from yours. Would you like yourself to be judged just because your beliefs are not parallel with the majority? Of course the answer would be NO, right. So think twice before we speak our mind.
So, instead of punishing the poor unique individual for being different, why not have an open heart and try to get to know the person better? I can promise you that it'll bring you no harm. In fact, you'll have an additional person to add on to your list of friends! Isn't that wonderful?! No? Yes? Haha!
In sum, the unique individual is just another face in the crowd. Don't judge and don't say nasty things to him/her just because he/she is not like you. Accept him/her as he/she is. Then i can guarantee, no damage will be done :)
p/s: Is there any possibility that a person who is judgemental is actually a person who is insecure or threaten by others? Hmm..i think there is.
Wednesday, 9 February 2011
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so do u practice what u preach here? did u accept people for who they were and did you stop yourself from being judgemental towards certain people?
Thanx miss/mr anonym for reading and responding. First of, i am not preaching coz i definitely do not qualify to be a preacher. So this is basically expressing my own thoughts.
I'd like to quote what i've written coz i've actually answered one of the questions.
"Frankly, I am no Santos, so i do tend to be judgemental at times. But a reminder, keep the nasty judging thoughts to yourself."
yeah, at times you can't help being judgemental. But i would always try refraining myself from making rude comments about it. Keep the thoughts when you know it'll bring harm than good.
Owh yes. People make mistakes. So do i. And i am learning from it.
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