Living in a society with various beliefs and values is as complex as it may seem, especially if you're an outsider and that your own values contradict with a number of people within the society. As a result, you can never have a sense of belonging to that particular society, until you compromise your own values and live to the majority.
I think it's a shame when that happens because one shouldn't be ethnocentric and judge others from their own set of values. We should accept others as they are since every one has his/her own beliefs which he/she was brought up with hence making him/her unique. Yet, certain people tolerate zero 'nonsense' and strictly believe that if you are in Rome, you are obliged to live like the Romans. Thus being unique within a society is a punishment to that particular individual.
Frankly, I am no Santos, so i do tend to be judgemental at times. But a reminder, keep the nasty judging thoughts to yourself. Don't spurt it out because you may never know how detrimental it can be. If not to the society, think how it shall affect the unique individual.
Therefore, this is when empathy, tolerance and openness come into place. Try to put yourself in the person's shoes. Imagine you're in a society whose values vary greatly from yours. Would you like yourself to be judged just because your beliefs are not parallel with the majority? Of course the answer would be NO, right. So think twice before we speak our mind.
So, instead of punishing the poor unique individual for being different, why not have an open heart and try to get to know the person better? I can promise you that it'll bring you no harm. In fact, you'll have an additional person to add on to your list of friends! Isn't that wonderful?! No? Yes? Haha!
In sum, the unique individual is just another face in the crowd. Don't judge and don't say nasty things to him/her just because he/she is not like you. Accept him/her as he/she is. Then i can guarantee, no damage will be done :)
p/s: Is there any possibility that a person who is judgemental is actually a person who is insecure or threaten by others? Hmm..i think there is.
Wednesday, 9 February 2011
at times of difficult
What would you do if you are in a pretty bad state, and have no comforting loved ones around to be the saviors and lend their shoulders for you to cry on? Here's a list of the things that i would normally retreat to. Please be reminded that the list is in no particular order.
On top of the list, escapism. Take time for yourself. Immerse in nature, marvel the beauty of God's creations. Behind every wonderfully created petals of the colourfully swaying flowers, there is the ultimate Creator. Constantly remind yourself that all things are fated, and that every cloud has its very own silver lining. Have strong faith in Allah the Almighty, the Lord who knows best. Pray and submit yourself to Him and then only you'll be contented.
Secondly, reach for the phone and text or call the people whom you rely on most; family or besties. Though i have a good and firm bonding with my family, i rarely tell them my problems coz i wouldn't want to trouble them and cause worries. Again, them, being our families, would worry regardless :p But frankly speaking, it soothes the pain a little even only by listening to my mama's or ayah's voice. So that justifies why as Muslims, we'll be rewarded with pahala only by looking at our dearest mother's or father's face. Lucky those who get to stay with their parents.
Now, the third point. Express yourself, let the emotions flow through writings. Write a journal, keep a diary or compose a poem. And that is what i am basically doing. Trying to contemplate through writings does work. At the same time, it allows you time to reflect and organize your own thoughts and life. Give it a try, it will do you good, if not much, at least a little.
Fourth, obviously, cry. I think crying heals at times. It's a natural way to express the wildly running emotions. And in my opinion, it is also the reason why God created us with tears. It's as if with every trickling tear drop, the problems just disappear.
If crying nor any of the above does no help AT ALL *notice the capitalization*, do not fret. People differ. Take some time to yourself. InsyaAllah, with time, things will heal.
p/s: Thank you for the inspiration and i am truly glad that i am able to inspire you to write :)
On top of the list, escapism. Take time for yourself. Immerse in nature, marvel the beauty of God's creations. Behind every wonderfully created petals of the colourfully swaying flowers, there is the ultimate Creator. Constantly remind yourself that all things are fated, and that every cloud has its very own silver lining. Have strong faith in Allah the Almighty, the Lord who knows best. Pray and submit yourself to Him and then only you'll be contented.
Secondly, reach for the phone and text or call the people whom you rely on most; family or besties. Though i have a good and firm bonding with my family, i rarely tell them my problems coz i wouldn't want to trouble them and cause worries. Again, them, being our families, would worry regardless :p But frankly speaking, it soothes the pain a little even only by listening to my mama's or ayah's voice. So that justifies why as Muslims, we'll be rewarded with pahala only by looking at our dearest mother's or father's face. Lucky those who get to stay with their parents.
Now, the third point. Express yourself, let the emotions flow through writings. Write a journal, keep a diary or compose a poem. And that is what i am basically doing. Trying to contemplate through writings does work. At the same time, it allows you time to reflect and organize your own thoughts and life. Give it a try, it will do you good, if not much, at least a little.
Fourth, obviously, cry. I think crying heals at times. It's a natural way to express the wildly running emotions. And in my opinion, it is also the reason why God created us with tears. It's as if with every trickling tear drop, the problems just disappear.
If crying nor any of the above does no help AT ALL *notice the capitalization*, do not fret. People differ. Take some time to yourself. InsyaAllah, with time, things will heal.
p/s: Thank you for the inspiration and i am truly glad that i am able to inspire you to write :)
Tuesday, 8 February 2011
screw me :p
okay, this is a confession.
i actually messed up with something today, resulting to something pretty ugly, i think *urgh*
my bad!!!
p/s: i can never be a good P.A. so those who are considering of hiring me, just completely get rid of the idea if you wouldn't want me to cause a haywire! Lol! ;p
i actually messed up with something today, resulting to something pretty ugly, i think *urgh*
my bad!!!
p/s: i can never be a good P.A. so those who are considering of hiring me, just completely get rid of the idea if you wouldn't want me to cause a haywire! Lol! ;p
Sunday, 6 February 2011
the awesomest day
Yesterday was the awesomest (hyperbole) day ever for 2011, so far. We had a gathering at our house to celebrate Ilhan's birth and it was truly amazing to have relatives and friends there to share the joyous moment with us. The fact that i enjoy attending and being at kenduris makes it even more meaningful, i guess.
So basically we had a fabulous day though we were all restless. Owh ya, guess what sort of questions did my aunties and uncles asked?
*drum roll*
"Bila plak kenduri Na?"
Zzzzzz~
So basically we had a fabulous day though we were all restless. Owh ya, guess what sort of questions did my aunties and uncles asked?
*drum roll*
"Bila plak kenduri Na?"
Zzzzzz~
Friday, 4 February 2011
I wish upon a shining star...
I wish everyday is as productive as today. And i wish everyday when i wake up, i'd be able to find my family there, all around me.. :(
Okay, no melancholy for this post, for goodness sake, Muna. Huhu. Emm..I'm really proud of myself today coz i actually woke up early this morning, had breakfast with mama, both my kakak, abg fairuz and my lil brothers, then went outside to clean the compound with mama. Chop down and trimmed the bamboo trees in front of the house and eventually ending up with blisters on my palm and fingers. Wuhuu~
I've also been mummy's good little girl (though too old to be called little any longer). I accompanied mama to the market today and we bought some meat, fish, chicken etc. Then i helped mama to prepare the dishes for lunch. We had soup tulang, friend fish and some ulam and sambal, which was superb!
It's been a while since the last time we ate together, so it was fun to gather as a family though still incomplete coz ayah is in Kota Bharu and abang and atul are in the UK and India. Yet, we enjoyed every bit. Owh, how i wish every day is like today...
ok, gtg. Madihah's been pulling my hand and claimed that she'll turn into the fiercest beast if i won't stop typing on her laptop! And i really wouldn't want to mess with my lil sister..Haha! :>
Okay, no melancholy for this post, for goodness sake, Muna. Huhu. Emm..I'm really proud of myself today coz i actually woke up early this morning, had breakfast with mama, both my kakak, abg fairuz and my lil brothers, then went outside to clean the compound with mama. Chop down and trimmed the bamboo trees in front of the house and eventually ending up with blisters on my palm and fingers. Wuhuu~
I've also been mummy's good little girl (though too old to be called little any longer). I accompanied mama to the market today and we bought some meat, fish, chicken etc. Then i helped mama to prepare the dishes for lunch. We had soup tulang, friend fish and some ulam and sambal, which was superb!
It's been a while since the last time we ate together, so it was fun to gather as a family though still incomplete coz ayah is in Kota Bharu and abang and atul are in the UK and India. Yet, we enjoyed every bit. Owh, how i wish every day is like today...
ok, gtg. Madihah's been pulling my hand and claimed that she'll turn into the fiercest beast if i won't stop typing on her laptop! And i really wouldn't want to mess with my lil sister..Haha! :>
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